Category: Parenting


URBAN PLAYGROUND How child-friendly planning and design can save cities’ by Tim Gill (RIBA Publishing, 2021)

How do we make cities better for everyone?

One way is to make them more child-friendly.

Practical ways to achieve this goal are explained and explored in this book by my good friend Tim Gill.

From the case studies of cities around the world, it becomes clear that a lack of imagination is just as much of a stumbling block as a shortage of funds. Of course, austerity policies and the Global financial crisis have stretched municipalities hard but tired thinking only serves to consolidate the problems. For instance, it should be clear by now that planning cities around motor vehicles only creates more pollution, noise and stress. Too often, urban planners are unwilling or unable to think outside the box.

With specific regard to facilities for children, landscape architecture academic Helen Woolley coined the term ‘KFC Playgrounds’ to denote the standard ‘kit, fence and carpet’ approach adopted by many local authorities in the UK. A photograph of a particularly bleak example in Chesterfield, England speaks volumes:

Adjectives used in the book to describe that constitutes ‘good’ play include “messy”, “disruptive”, “social” and “spontaneous”. None of these words would be used to describe controlled activities in what amount to little more than risk-free cages. Indeed, Tim makes it clear that dedicated play areas are not the only child-friendly solution for cities. More green areas, traffic calming or wider pavements are other ways that can provide kids with the space to make their own entertainment. Safety measures are crucial but a focus on excessive supervision is often counterproductive.


Tim shows what is possible when creative thinking is combined with a willingness to bring about genuine change. The case study of Rotterdam is given as a prime example of how a failing city can be turned around. Unusually for a Dutch city, this was clogged by cars, a fact that helped earn it the unenviable title as the worst municipality for children in the Netherlands. Over a 12 year period, planners and local decision makers set about building a better environment for families. Tim devotes a whole chapter to this city and concludes that, “Rotterdam succeeded in carrying out scalable, sustainable interventions that have transformed many neighbourhoods” and that it offers “a valuable set of lessons for other cities.”


Fourteen other cities are studied to compare and contrast other planning solutions around the world. The population densities in each case are compared to Tim’s home city of London but his approach is not exclusively Eurocentric as other examples include cities in Brazil, Canada and Israel. The aim throughout is to use these various approaches to find practical solutions and the concluding chapter includes a series of ‘Tool Kits’ with suggested check lists of ideas and methods.

As for what happens next, I love the quote from Guillermo (Gil) Peñalosa that introduces the concluding chapter :”We have to stop building cities as if everyone is 30 years old and athletic”.


This book gives the ways and means for making cities more playful places for everyone. While the focus is on meeting children’s needs, the knock-on effects have benefits for all age groups since playfulness lies at the heart of community connection and civil identity

CALM WITH HORSES directed by Nick Rowland (UK -Ireland, 2019)

220px-calm_with_horses_poster “I’m told I was a violent child” is the opening line in a  voiceover in this bold and bruising tale of toxic masculinity.

The narrator is Douglas ‘Arm’ Armstrong , an ex-boxer, now employed as an enforcer for an unscrupulous criminal family.  The setting is rural Ireland in a claustrophic community where conflict and violence are the accepted ways of life.

Douglas is a physically imposing presence, lumbering from scene to scene like a wounded beast. His handler is the manipulative Dymphna (Barry Keoghan) who plies him with drugs much as a dog owner might seek to placate a doberman pinscher. Continue reading

Burning down the house

LITTLE FIRES EVERYWHERE by Celeste Ng (Penguin Press, 2017)

220px-little_fires_everywhereWhen I first saw the cover of this book, it brought to mind the artwork for ‘Everything That Happens Will happen Today’ , an album by David Byrne and Brian Eno released in 2008. This association proved to be not so wide of the mark. David Byrne’s work with Talking Heads often cast a sardonic eye on suburban living. In ‘The Big Country’, for instance, he gazed down from an airplane at the neat houses and comfortable urban amenities below and concluded “I wouldn’t live there if you paid me to”.

Celeste Ng is not quite so scathing in the way she presents Shaker Heights in Cleveland, Ohio but, equally, she is not blind to the faults of a community that smugly prides itself on having a plan for anything and doesn’t see race.

This is “a town built for cars and for people who had cars” and a place where “an un-mowed lawn would result in a polite but stern letter from the city”. Anything regarded as a flaw to the domestic perfection is regarded as a threat. Continue reading

LOCKE – Fuck Chicago

Screen shot 2019-11-04 at 22.15.46LOCKE directed by Steven Knight (UK, 2013)

Locke is Samuel Beckett in a BMW X5. From the creator of Peaky Blinders. A riveting one man show. Tom Hardy brilliant as Ivan Locke. A Welshman who works in construction. Concrete is his speciality. He’s good at his job. A fixer. He gets things done. He knows that details matter. A huge Chicago contract is worth millions. Everything depends on him. Everything must be in place. He knows one mistake can be catastrophic.Sooner or later cracks appear if anything goes wrong. Even the most stable structure will eventually fall.
Locke is driving from Birmingham to London. On the motorway he makes calls by speakerphone. To business associates. To his two sons. To his wife. To Bethan. Locke is the only face we see.
Ivan Locke’s life is built on firm foundations but is falling apart. His job and marriage are on the line. A one-night stand was all it took. An error of judgement. A moment of weakness. The woman is no oil painting. Not young either. Bethan.
She was lonely. He was too that night. He felt sorry for her. He still does. They drank wine. They had sex. One time only. Enough for her to get pregnant. She decided to keep the baby. It could be her last chance to be a mother.
Locke is a father already. His sons are home watching a big match. He is supposed to be there watching with them. But Bethan’s waters have broken. Two months early. He is the father. He feels responsible. He is not her partner. She is nothing to him. But he caused the situation. Now he needs to fix it. To make it right. He will be with her when she gives birth. His father abandoned him. He will not do the same. He imagines his father in the back seat of the car. Mocking his predicament.
Locke is not a bad man. He has everything to lose.
His son has taped the match. He says he they will watch pretending not to know the result. When he comes home. But life has no replay options. We live with the choices we make. What is done cannot be undone.
Owning up to the truth means confessing to infidelity. It means risking the Chicago contract. He could lie. He could say he’s sick. He does neither. Fuck deception. Fuck Chicago.

EDUCATED by Tara Westover (Random House, 2018)
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What is education for?

This deceptively simple question is guaranteed to open a can of worms.

In Charles Dickens’ ‘Hard Times’, the severe school board superintendent Thomas Gradgrind expresses the view that “facts alone are wanted in life”. Schooling in Victorian times typically followed the view that young captives in the classroom were little more that vessels to be filled.

In our supposedly more enlightened age, decent-minded folk are scathing towards such blatant child abuse. The robotic process of memorizing and reproducing information is rightly dismissed in favor of an educational model that encourages students to, in the words of Noam Chomsky, “shape the questions worth pursuing”.

In a talk to teachers, James Baldwin followed the Chomskyan line when he said “The purpose of education is to create in a person the ability of to look at the world for himself”. But Baldwin was also aware of how problematic a well-informed, critical populace could be and added that “no society is really anxious to have that kind of person around”.

In ‘Educated’ by Tara Westover , the author implicitly asks readers to consider where instruction ends and indoctrination begins.

In a note to readers, she advises: “This is not a book about Mormonism. Neither is it a book about religious belief”. Yet the fundamentalist of her survivalist parents and their rigid application of principles prescribed by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints have a huge and primarily negative impact of her upbringing.

A weaker, less stubborn personality would have been broken and submitted to a conventional life mapped out for her. As it is, she not only survives to tell her remarkable tale but thrives against all odds to become an esteemed scholar and to exemplify the virtues of individual thought and creative enquiry. Continue reading